Mar
8
2009
Why Marriage Is Never 50/50
Author: siggyLife is never fair. Nor is giving. The pendulum swings in a marriage, sometimes, back and forth. One person gives more of his/herself and then the other. A vow was made during the marriage ceremonies: the words “for better or worse” are there for a reason: bad times will come to a marriage. There will be illness, lost jobs, money problems and often conflict, which will need to be resolved. Sometimes an illness will result in one partner taking care of the other, sometimes permanently (the marriage vow “till death do us part” is there for a reason). The giving then may become totally unbalanced. Insisting the giving be always 50/50 puts a strain on the marriage and is really unrealistic. Really all a partner can do is love the other, not being concerned how equal the give and take is. Insisting or complaining you are giving more consistently always puts a strain on the marriage. We are commanded in our vows to love the other in sickness or health (or in any, every situation) (my words). Each partner only gives what he/she can. Insisting marriage be always 50/50 is always wrong.
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