May
22
2009
I Just Seek Peace
Author: siggyConflict is good. It forces you to connect with your partner at a deeper level. You want to resolve your conflict, to seek peace with your partner.
In order to do that you have to reach deep within you, find the solution to resolve the impasse. This is all good. You must seek a creative solution to break the impasse.
In the process your roots are entangled with your partner, making your connection that much deeper. Conflict brings your deepest feelings to the surface.
After peace comes, you know your conflict resolution was genuine. Couples who do not argue are not facing their conflict head on but are superficially connecting with one another.
Anger indicates you have hit a nerve and you need to find a solution pleasing to both–often a compromise. Then a calm can come bringing peace to the couple. One needs to be kind in the process otherwise too many hurt feelings will hinder your resolution of your conflict.
Conflict can be a good thing. In the wake of a genuine solution, a couple’s relationship can become that much stronger. Conflict, in that case, is always beneficial.
