Siggy’s Blurbs

The litmus test of a healthy marriage is humor:  can you still laugh together and at one another.  When a marriage goes sour you lose your sense of humor.  There is always hope if you can laugh at one another.  So think of that when you judge the health of your marriage:  can you still laugh at one another?  Humor is always the key.

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“All you want from me is sex and scrabble”!? my wife declared in frustration.  I thought that was a funny list.  ?Scrabble.  Hell, traditionally males have complained about that three letter word going out first.

I lasted that long huh?!  Anyway, I had to laugh at that list.  There are things to me far more important than that –the clutter and other things that have driven me crazy almost more than the lack of the word that will remain nameless since everyone will know what I am referring to.

There have been countless “NO!”’s you uttered to me in the short time.

Sex is only one request of many

We have known each other

Only a few years

But forever to me

You simply pretend  you did not hear me again for the umpteen time or you have heard the requests so many times so you have become blind to them or now simply you ignore them

Requests I ask you get lost in the infinite clutter and chatter

(and I am sure she will make the same claims:  “You don’t listen to me.  You never hear me!”)

I still have to laugh at the original statement.  All I want from me is sex and scrabble

Really ?scrabble

And ?!sex

The time we spend doing that

Is really a drop in a bucket

Of the time spent together

I must be the crazy male

Just tearing out my hair

Excuse me I do not have much

Anymore

I guess we have been

Married too long

This is the longest seven

Years of my life

?Scrabble!

I guess all wives drive their

Husband crazy

I am just one

Of a long line

At least that is

What my doctor says

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Every time I pass that house only a mile away I look and search for the owner’s goats.  Today I saw something extraordinary:  a baby completely black and only a few weeks old perched on top of the shoulders of its ?mom feeding near the fence.  I had never seen a baby goat do that and I had never seen a complely black goat–two extraordinary things.  When I passed there an hour later neither goat was to be found.  You never know for sure what you are going to see.  I await expectantly for my next find.

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Things really don’t matter.  When it comes down to it, material possessions don’t matter.  Sure, we ought to take care of them when we are here on this earth.  We can’t take them with us when we die.

So what really matters if it is not things?  And what is really left when the Lord takes us?  The love we have shared with one another.  The memory others have of us after we go.

So why do we spend so little time on developing our relationships with others while we are here?

I do not really have an answer to that.  Except our priorities seem to be skewed.  When everything is taken from us what is left even when we can’t get around so well as often happens when we get up there in age?

Maybe the time and love we have shared with others and spent developing during our lifetime.  Our roots with one another.  Why do some people spend so little time on that?!  I am as guilty as others.

In poor countries with a lot less than we have some people appear to be a lot happier then we are surrounded by wealth.  It is just some food for thought.

Happiness is not commensurate with wealth otherwise Americans would be at the top of the list.  And they are not.

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Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.  This advice from the bible is a good one.  Another way to interpret this line is don’t nurse hurts in your marriage.  Let them go.  Start each day afresh.

I am imperfect and so is my partner.  If you don’t forgive your partner at the end of the day for being imperfect (for hurting you), the wounds just fester.

Everyone sins (or should I say is imperfect or human).  You know in your heart you sin everyday why should you expect your other to be otherwise.

Forgiveness at the end of the day wipes your slate clean.  That is why it is healthy not to nurse hurts in your marriage.

We are all imperfect and whether or not you think your partner deserves it you have to forgive your partner at the end of the day.  It is the right thing to do.

I really believe marriage was put on this earth only for two reasons–to teach us how to forgive and love others and these lessons start off with our primary relationships–our mates.

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I don’t have to be ashamed when I don’t know something.  I used to be but no longer.  I think of the passage from Ralph Waldo Emerson’s famous essay “Self- Reliance”:  ‘There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance’…

When you are ashamed of what you don’t know you are comparing yourself to someone else.  I had to accept who I was, whatever my portion of knowledge I possessed and go on from there.

Comparing myself to someone else just got in the way.  I had to accept who I was.  There would always be others who knew more and conversely who knew less.

My body of knowledge started off with me, whatever my limitations and that was the way it was.  Envy, which had turned  into shame, just got in the way.   Every time I read those lines of Emerson’s I could relax.  I no longer had to be ashamed of what I did not know.

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