Siggy’s Blurbs

I am convinced the only reason marriage exists is to teach us how to love better.  Each person is sinful (and very imperfect).  And selfish.  Living with another forces us to examine our own foibles.

Some marriages are a better fit than another.  It does not matter.  At some point, there is going to be conflict.  And how successfully you work it out determines the success of your marriage.

Each person is selfish and conflict draws this out.  The vows say for better or worse, in sickness or health.  Commitment is always the key.  Do you ride out the rough moments?  Every marriage will have difficult times.

Your partner sees all your sides given enough time.  The good points of yours as well as your bad side.  Nothing is hidden.

Only love can transcend them.  That is why I say the institution of marriage was created for only one reason–to teach us how to love better.

Your rough points given enough time in a marriage becomes smoothed over.  Love is always the key.  And commitment makes it work.

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No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try you are still going to displease your “other”.  Be aware you are going to fail.  Breakdowns in communication between couples, even to the best of us, happen all the time.

Do not get overly frustrated when that happens and make the best of it.  I keep quoting my doctor who responded to my comment, “My wife is driving me crazy.” by saying, ‘Don’t all wives do that?  Join the club!’

Scott Peck in one of his books states, ‘People get married for the friction.’  There is no other common institution like marriage to change us.

Each person is selfish.  Living with another forces you out of your comfort zone and makes you examine your behavior in a way you would not have to if you were living alone.

I have a friend who once told me, ‘Marriage is work.’  I laughed at him at the time.  I did not believe him.  I was single at the time.  I am no longer laughing at him.  He was right.

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