Apr
29
2009
All I Did Was Rub His Belly…
Author: siggyAll I ever did was rub his belly every time he turned over and wanted it. Atilla The Hun (or Tilla for short), who I call one of my puppies although he is going on two, is now my friend for life.
I realize humans do not want their bellies rubbed but I will tell you for certain each of us wants and needs positive strokes every day from our loved ones. I do. Maybe I can’t speak for others.
I tell you one thing humans are notorious for their lack of strokes (or should I call it encouragement). I try to refrain from criticism. We are so quick to speak up when someone does us wrong or fails us in some way.
There are many dying from lack of strokes, encouragement, affection from others. We are so stingy with it. We all like our “bellies rubbed” every day every time we want it. Think of “Tilla”. And the many friends you potentially can make if you take the time to indicate to others how much you truly like (and love them).
Maybe you do not want your belly rubbed but a kind word consistently given to another goes a long way. So refrain as much as you can from telling another how much they “failed” you. It is often small things. It is the small details in life.
Phil Jackson, the great basketball coach who has won nine NBA titles, did not turn around his career until he realized for every criticism he dished out he had to give nine positive strokes to his players. So many times we have that ratio reversed so think about that. And how many people you can win over if you use criticism sparingly and learn to find positive things to say about the people in your life consistently.
