No matter what I did there would be times I would displease my partner. Of course, if it happened continuously there was something gravely the matter between the two us. We simply had to work it out whenever possible. It also meant I had to forgive my partner for not living up to my expectations. We were still two separate individuals and hopefully bridged the gap between us often enough to bond to one another. We are all imperfect and flawed. Marriage vows enable you to ride out the rough stretches between you.