Don’t trap others: always give each person a gracious way out. I was, particularly, thinking of my “other.” I try to give her as much freedom as I can. If you make a request, make sure she has a way out. Don’t trap her. Always give her a gracious way to say, “No.” Your mate does not exist solely for you. She has her own set of desires and aspirations. Hopefully you can help her with a few and with her growth. Encouragement not entrapment. You’re supposed to be her helpmate.
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I have no control of my wife but I do of me. I can not fix her and Lord knows I have tried repeatedly with very little success. I do have control of me and this revelation may appear to be obvious but I am an extremely slow learner and this idea I can only control me frees me. Paradoxically I may be able to change her behavior by concentrating on mine but I can not act with that in mind. I have to love her freely and not do anything because I am trying to change her for that is manipulation on my part. All this is very freeing to me.
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