We think so differently. My wife and I. Sometimes that is hard to accept although I know one and one makes three in our case. It really would be quite boring if we thought exactly alike.
She does drive me crazy but I imagine I do the same to her. “Isn’t that what all wives do?” my doctor commented when I mentioned that to him.
I know I am more because she is by my side. Studies over and over prove married people live longer which does not mean married life is not stressful at times: it is.
But Proverbs says there is nothing worse than a man who falls down and has no one to pick him up. It is true I lose certain things when I decided to marry but I also gain things.
I like what Scott Peck says about marriage, ‘People get married for the friction.’ His exact words in one of his books. There is no more common institution to change you than marriage.
Change won’t happen without sparks. I can testify to that. And I am sure so can other people who entered that institution. Will you survive them? That is the only pertinent question.
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A marriage is built (or town down) one piece at a time. The large things come along only once in awhile. Everything in a marriage has to be worked out: who cooks, pays the bills, is in charge of the finances–every detail between the two of you has to be worked out.
If you can not agree about the details, your marriage is in trouble. In every solid marriage, really an miniature organization, most of the details over the years have been worked out and there is a minimum of discord.
In unresolved conflict, you fight about almost everything and your marriage is in danger. Every detail between the two of you has to be resolved–at least most of them in order for your marriage to run smoothly.
I like what Scott Peck says in one of his books, ‘People get married for the friction.’ Can you think of a more common institution to change you than marriage? A marriage is forged degree by degree.
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