Oct
22
2009
Your growth is stunted when you can not tolerate even the slightest degree of criticism. You feel you must be perfect in order to be loved. And everyone is flawed.
Having to feel you must be a “nice” person all the time is not a good thing. It prevents you from being real. Being genuine is knowing you can make mistakes and those around you will still love you.
When you can not tolerate even the slightest degree of criticism, others have to walk delicately around you. Others have a harder time being genuine around you.
There really is nothing wrong with being “nice” but the question is at what price? If it is all the time, something is wrong.
You become afraid of others seeing how you really are. You have to let down your shields at least with some people. When you truly feel loved, this become easier.
When you can not tolerate any one being critical the slightest degree, you are handicapped at work, at home and in your significant relationships. In every area.
It is a long uphill journey to correct the damage usually caused during childhood. And a lot of people make it back successfully and learn to love and be loved. There is always hope.
