I don’t know why it is so hard to get rid of old letters–some decades old. Some memories I don’t want to delve in any longer yet I save the faded correspondence. Cards with nothing notable on them I trash easily. Some letters from my sister I wonder about. The memories seem so far away. Some are bad, some are good. Once in awhile a photo drops out of the letter and the passage of time is revealed. Was I really that young once? I have grown old. I don’t want to to rid myself entirely of past memories. Friends and lovers.

And I know when I am gone someone else will probably trash them. I just can’t bear to throw away most of my letters. Part of my life is embodied in those letters. It is so hard–patches of my history, my life is everywhere. Dates are sometimes important: they mark milestones of my past. I am always surprised how porous my memory is. Friends wrote me letters I have long forgotten. I do toss some. People have fled in the corridors of my mind. It is so hard. Clues of my history, my life is everywhere.

Hospitality Is An Art

Author: siggy

No matter how beautiful or even drab an area we visited it is always the hospitality displayed that determined whether I enjoyed my stay.

It is never the place.  I remember how beautiful the view from my sister’s deck of Cape Cod Bay but I could not get away quick enough.  She drove me nuts with her fastidiousness.  If I spilled one drop of water on her floor or dropped one crumb of food she went berserk.  Her kitchen floor looked like you could eat off it.

That same year we visited a college friend of mine and what a contrast.  There was peace in that household.  There was no one hovering over me.  We felt welcome.  Hospitality is an art.  And you always know whose household you want to return to.