Mar
17
2010
If You Want To Upset Me, Confront Me Unnecessarily
Author: siggyIf you want to upset me confront me unnecessarily and put me in an untenable position. And do it over minor stuff. Always give me a way out. Very, very seldom is it necessary to do that. Almost never in fact.
If you listen to diplomats, usually every effort is made to reach a compromise pleasing to both.
If you want me to yell and raise my voice continue to do that. You have a choice in the matter. Meet me half way. Do not make it your will against mine. Do not insist on something being done a certain way.
If the truth be known, there are usually several different ways to accomplish the same purpose but if you insist I do something and you have backed me against the wall and I really can’t do it or think I can’t, I will only get upset.
And it is so unnecessary. If you are willing to bend, most things can be done peacefully. And without strife. ‘Your mother’s ghost hangs over your shoulder’–a line from the song “Triad” written by David Crosby and performed by Jefferson Airplane.
Sometimes you have to realize stances you maintain are really shadows of lessons you learned in your childhood and repeated lessons your parents imparted. It is not necessary to hang on to them. They only get you in trouble as you found out.
This latest squabble we had was when I asked you to check a dog’s collar. All you had to do was say, “Yes, I will.” I was not sure of how tight or loose it was before. You insisted I figure it out. You did not have to back me in a corner.
I do not exist in a vacuum. If you don’t want me to raise my voice, stop putting we (???) in untenable positions. And give me ways out. I guarantee I will get upset less and will raise my voice less. You do exert some control over me. Just use it.
