Isolation is a bad thing. Sometimes you have to force yourself to go out. When you mix with others you gain a proper perspective of your life. You find out others are dealing with problems–some severe.
It is too easy to magnify your own set of problems. If you don’t talk to others this is an easy thing to do. When you mix with others, you have an opportunity to learn about others and even find ways to reach out to other people.
Isolation is always a bad thing. You think the whole universe revolves around you. Going out frees you from this illusion. You find out you are not alone and every one has to deal with something.
People get sick, even die and sometimes have almost unbearable difficulties. You get an opportunity to share your problems with others. And the reverse is also true. You get to share your victories with others and they with you.
You never find this out unless you leave your premises. It is always good to get out, talk to others. And reach out to others. ‘No man is an island’ in the words of John Donne.
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The isolation that follows depression is the worst thing about it. It is self perpetuating: you feel all alone and then depressed. You are depressed, thus you feel alone. It is a vicious cycle.
Somehow you need to break it. In the beginning it is very difficult. I was there. I started to think of everything I should be grateful for.
Some things were material like the fence we made taller this year so all our dogs could be contained in our yard. One dog could jump the fence and we wanted him to run wild again.
Four dogs who love me all in their own way was a thing to be thankful for. I had a special relationship with one–“Tilla.” That was no small thing.
I had to look for a crack in my depression. At first it would be small but if I continued it would get bigger and bigger. Finding things to be grateful for was a start.
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One of the worst things about depression is the isolation that follows: it is self perpetuating. In the middle of your depression your problems are accentuated and blown out of proportion.
When you make the effort to leave your private circle and talk to other people your problems fade a bit: you find out talking to other people that they have problems, too.
They may be different than yours but when you make the effort to go out of the house you find out is (???) everyone is dealing with something.
Depression isolates yourself and your problems are magnified out of proportion. When you stay in your house, you never find out this.
When you force yourself to mingle with others (and this can be very difficult in a depressed state) you invariably find out you are not alone: everyone is dealing with something.
If you give in to your inclination not to be with anyone your depression becomes deeper and deeper so fight that desire to keep to yourself. It is always helpful when you the leave the confines of your home. Your problems always seem smaller.
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You never have to do it alone. Depression is born(e) of isolation. Reach out to others in need you will break the spell of isolation. We can not do it alone any way.
Isolation is bad for your problems become magnified. And when you reach out to others your problems fade into the background.
The truth is every one has problems. Solving them is what makes life interesting. The only people who do not have problems are under ground. So relish yours and at the same time reach out to others in need. ‘No man is an island’ in the words of John Donne.
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