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I am allowed to say the words, ‘I can’t!’  Granted my mate has heard those two words too often.  Nevertheless I am allowed to say them.  Sometimes she is being unreasonable insisting on something which I can’t fulfill.  Other times she is not and I have to try harder.  Nevertheless, I always have the right to say those words.  Along with the words, ‘I won’t.’  I have to set limits on other people’s demands, even my “other’s”.  “No” can be a pretty powerful word but you can’t go there all the time then it loses its force and your mate gets tired of your negativity.  You have to be more careful with its use.

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It is easy to criticize the other.  I am as guilty as the other.  Sometimes all one sees is the flaws of another, the ways the other has failed you.  And when you can’t see beyond that point, that is all you see–the imperfections of that person.

This is a really easy thing to do, just to see where someone has failed you.  And both partners do it.  Our vision becomes myopic.  Faults are all you see.

The good points of your partner (or whoever) become buried in fault finding and criticism.  It is a wicked cycle.  And one can’t stop pointing out the others mistakes.

I just don’t know how to reverse that process and see, again, the best in someone else.  Sometimes all you can see is blackness and you want to come out of that tunnel and start rediscovering why you were attracted to that person in the first place.  You can only change by small degrees–small steps.  This is a very difficult thing to do, especially in the face of negativity.  All I can do is pray and ask for His help above.

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