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Every person has tragedy in their life.  If you would take the time to listen, you would find that out.  That is just the way it is.  And some people have more.  And life is not always fair.  You can rant and rail.  It does not do any good.  So what is the difference between one person or another?  It is how they meet their circumstances.  Is it with courage or dignity?

Or do they whine?  And complain.  Every person has some tragedy in their lives.  It is how they face them that makes all the difference.  Do others get inspired by their example?  We all know such people in our lives.  You can’t change your circumstances but you can change your attitude.  That you have more control of.

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It was a simple realization:  the only person I can change is me.  I have no control of others.  In this case my wife.  Things had become a little ragged between us.  There was too much tension between us.  Tempers flared too often.  And I wanted it back to the way it used to be.

And this popped into my head:  I have absolutely no control of my “other”.  I do have control of me.  And that gave me hope, that our situation would improve.

Telling my wife you did this or that wrong was futile.  I had to figure out what I could change in me, how I could react differently to her.

Steven R. Covey in one of his books explained you always have a split second to choose your reaction to another.  There is that space.  You do not just have to react.

All this gave me hope.  It really was under my control.  I can not change another (in this case my mate) but I can change me, I can change my reaction.  All this gave me hope.

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