My birthday was actually two weeks long this year.  My sisters (and their husbands) threw me a birthday bash at a beautiful restaurant with the Susquehanna River in the background. My sister in California arranged her itinerary (she and her husband were going to Spain) to be there.  The last time were were all together was two summers ago although this time my nephew and wife were there.  We were a party of thirteen.  I also invited some friends.  The weather was perfect (we ate on the deck of the restaurant) and so was the food.  We were commemorating my sixty-fifth birthday.  My one sister made the same cake my Mom used to make for our birthdays.  She went to a lot of trouble for me.  I don’t have many relatives but they are scattered from Shore to Shore.  Maybe if I make it we will have a seventieth birthday party.  We will see.

Say “Yes” when it is a simple request.  It was not how you would do it but why have a fight over it.  There is no big principle involved.  Pick your fights.  Fight over things that are worth fighting over.  Not simple things, that really do not matter in the long run.

There is always injustice in this world for we live in an imperfect world.  The face of it changes and evolves.  We live in a sinful world.  Each person has to decide what battles to fight.  We can’t just spin our wheel.  Each person’s time here is finite.  Injustice won’t go away.  But we can in our own way make the world a little better.  We should not (???) do the little that is in our power to do.  The seed of a mustard seed in the beginning is very tiny.  Every movement started with one person.  The power of one.  Never forget that.  The power of one.

Every day I have to thank God for his blessings.  I will repeat this over and over.  I owe Him everything.  Every provision.  My health.  Everything.  I get into trouble when I take Him for granted.  I, also, have to remind myself life, also, is not fair.  Every day I have to thank Him for every moment.  I owe Him everything.  Every blessing.  Every breath I take.

Gratitude is the only way.  It is so easy not to thank God for His abundance.  But you must.  Life is not always fair but he says, ‘Give us our daily bread.’  And pray to Him with a spirit of thankfulness.  He does take care of us.  And we have to thank Him every day for His blessings.  That is why we have to approach Him every day with a spirit of thankfulness.  We owe everything to Him.  Everything.  Every gift, every provision.  Our health.  Everything.

His Gift Is Free

Author: siggy

His gift is free as it states in the first two lines of Isaiah 55 in the Old Testament:  ‘Ho, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and you that have no money, come, buy wine and milk without money and with out price.  Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy?…’

I know all too well what those lines mean.  So many times I become consumed with the wrong things, that really don’t matter in the long run.  And I have to come back to Him.  He is the only gift that truly matters.  And He is free.  You just have to accept Him.  He loves you and will not force you to come to him.  He is a free gift.

People who think they are perfectly normal create havoc around them.  Never get mad at them.  They think how could you possibly get angry at me.  Little old me.  ‘I did nothing wrong.’  Such people are narcissistic to the nth degree.  They can’t accept being flawed.  And each person is flawed.  So they have no idea of the damage they do around them–the mistakes they make.  I know perfectly well I am a little crazy and make mistakes.  So is every person.  It is those people who can’t accept they are flawed and make mistakes who create havoc around them for they can’t judge they had a hand in the impact of those around them.  Every person is flawed, sins and makes mistakes.  And when you do, all you can do is ask for forgiveness from the ones you hurt with your actions.

Somehow I felt relieved after both of my parents died.  I could be my own person easier.  They were not telling me I did not match up any longer or something I was doing wasn’t right.  My father never told me exactly how I did not match up.  I just knew I didn’t.  I had gotten into debt and that was a cardinal sin and I did not make much money.  That is what he was impressed by–money.  Nothing I did.  Mom was overly concerned about appearances.  Looking right to the rest of the world.  I did not have to deal with any of that any longer.  They were not looking over my shoulders any longer.  I was just relieved.

My wife and I have a fierce scrabble rivalry.  We play about once a week.  When we were courting I would bring my Scrabble game and we might play three games in a row.  She was intimated by me at first:  she lost ten games in a row and thought she would never beat me.  At first, she thought it was mercenary to count the points in a word.  I told her that was the whole idea making points not just words.  I taught her how to play better.  It was really logic I was teaching her—how to use the premiums on the board better.  She knew she had arrived when she once beat me ten games in a row.  We use a Scrabble computer dictionary and play an “open” game allowing each of us to consult it any time.  I really believe her vocabulary is bigger.  She says I am a better player.  I don’t think so.  We have heated games and sometimes the winner goes down to the last turn or two.  It is only by grace I have a live in Scrabble opponent.

I remember during my first serious relationship thinking every time I had a big fight it was the end of us.  She kept reassuring me it was not.  I now know couples have fights because they are trying to work things out.  Conflict is normal.  You just don’t want constant unresolved conflict for that is not healthy for the relationship.  It puts it on very fragile ground.  Fights are fueled by deep feelings and somehow you have to learn how to resolve differences.  It is the resolution of conflict that cements the relationship.  A fight means work needs to be done between the two of you.  It is a natural process.

Why I Love My Pets

Author: siggy

There are many reasons I love my pets.  Growing up, I had none.  It was not even an option.  I have a chance to do it all over.  At the moment, I have a menagerie–seven cats and four dogs.  I know I won’t always have that many.  I love each cat and dog.  Sure they are a responsibility.  I welcome that gladly.  Each cat and each dog is different.  Each one I have to love differently.  Not every pet responds to me.  So what.  It is a privilege to raise them.  They don’t belong to me.  Each one is on loan.  I treat each animal differently.  Like others, there are those I love more.  Cats are very different than dogs–much more independent.  I am just glad I have the opportunity to raise and love each animal.  It is a privilege and an honor.

My seven cats and four dogs enrich my life.  I have to admit only one cat (Cool Hand Luke), a completely black scrawny cat, seeks me out and snuggles up to me occasionally.  Maybe, that is because she is the only pet I had before I met my wife over ten years ago.  I have always taken care of her.  She has a favorite spot in my room, where she curls up by the window on the books I have placed there.  When she is not there at night she sleeps on my bed catercorner from me.  She does not get along too well with the other cats.

My relationship with the other six cats are all different.  Cheyenne, a beautiful long haired cat, usually does not let me pet him.  In fact, if I approach him; he goes the opposite way and looks at me with the expression “how dare you go near me.”  Jasmine, a tiny delicate female, the mother of four of our cats, does not seek me out but does not object if I pet her.

China, a long haired exotically colored black and white cat is one cool cat, supremely confidently poised cat will, also, not seek me out but certainly not turn down an hug from me.  Tiger will also not turn me down.  He has the softest fur.  Even the vet commented how soft his fur was.

Pumpkin, the only cat from Jasmine’s first litter, is just a nice cat and gets along with all the other cats.  And then there is Buttons, somewhat similar in coloring to Tiger.  He was the last cat to enter this household.  He showed up at our front door.  He is about as wild as you can be and still be a domestic cat.  He hides under our bed.  And usually goes the other way if I dare approach him.  That takes care of the cats and now I will talk briefly about our four dogs.

There is Pax, the elder, who is a ninety pound scary dog but a real scaredy cat.  He likes the sound of his own voice and will demonstrate that if he runs into the yard and seeks out the furthest right corner of the fence barking every step of the way.  He comes up to me if he wants something for he knows I will not ignore him and act quicker than my wife.  He is getting up in age–now twelve.

Now there is the golden retriever appropriately named Sweetie.  She is very tactile, loves to have something in her mouth and just can not get enough attention.  In fact, she will demand it and sit there all day while you pet her.  She is the mom of the last two dogs (Pax is the Dad) Tilla and Coco.

Coco is a long haired female who is black with a touch of red in there.  She has the most adorable fluffy ears.  She likes her privacy.  She will often go into the bed room by herself and just stay there for hours.  She will lie down there front paws crossed so delicate like completely feminine like.

The last animal I have is Tilla originally called Atilla The Hun and The Olympian.  He is the only dog who could jump the fence we had built around a large section of the yard and necessitated us building it even higher.  He is lean, aggressive and completely black and the most athletic of our four dogs.

He keeps me company as I watch TV in the evening and then sleeps in the Lazy Boy I vacate when I go to bed.  I won his love by giving him a belly rub almost every time he wanted it.  He and I have a special relationship.  He is the only dog I have given walks.  That is a brief description of my relationships I have with my eleven animals.  Each one is different.